Tuesday, April 27, 2010

What is the best advice you can give to someone who has low confidence and has no friends?

I am almost 17 and have little to no confidence in myself. Life has handed me cards that are not so great. I am afraid of people and this has been happening for almost 4 years. I believe it is because I lack confidence in myself. I have no friends, because I freeze up and have anxiety attacks when people who I do not know talk to me. I am afraid of what they think of me, afraid of what will happen if they become my friend, afraid that I will not be good enough and it stops me from speaking up in my science workshops because I am afraid I will mess up. What is the best advice you can give to someone who has low confidence and has no friends? I want to have a high self esteem and to have at least a few friends but it's so hard. Thanks!What is the best advice you can give to someone who has low confidence and has no friends?
ok here take a breath and just do it without thinking the more you think the less chance you are goin to do it and talk to people, i mean it might b hard but once you get the hang of it wit will be easier its like riding a bike What is the best advice you can give to someone who has low confidence and has no friends?
Take care of yourself first. Go to the gym even if you are skinny. Being in shape and working out gives you confidence. Train for a marathon or something, set a physical fitness goal. Also maybe take some acting classes/ or join a theatre group. This can help with speaking and confidence.
ppl can give advice but it never works. i am like u but 14 yrs old.





ppl have always been mean to me but i jsut can't help but be nice.





its jsut not fair. i never talk, fearing that ppl will laugh.






heres the best i can give to you-


practice your speech in a mirror and try to cool it when trying to talk to people. and dont be afraid to speak up. practice. then if you feel your ready, try to talk to somebody. maybe you'll earn a freind. and may i add that having freinds isn't half bad. i've had 2 besties for 7 years and i'm making more now cause i'm speaking. answer a question, say hi to a stranger, don't be afraid. cause if you keep it all bottled in, you'll be a huge wreck. this may get you freinds and maybe gain some self confidence.


-thats all i got :)
There must be some thing you do that makes you feel good about yourself? Use that to gain more confidence. And it might sound funny but fake it a little, fake that you feel confident, just for a day and see what happens. If you have any hobbies then try to make friends around the things you enjoy and you will feel less shy talking. Keep you chin up, it gets better after high school. I promise.
Just make an effort try to be friendly to people, ask about their days, talk about TV shows or things that they can relate to. As for being nervous around people, just remember, it doesn't matter at all what the people at your school think about you, i don't care about what a lot of people think of me and i have my own group of friends and i have a great social life!
Avoidant personality disorder

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