Taking a break, can you give me advice?

My boyfriend and I have a an on again/ off againg relationship. I know that we love eachother, we've talked about marriage. Do you think that taking a break for a year would help this situation? Maybe get us to finally decide what we really want and stick with it? He's 5 years younger than me. I'm 28. Taking a break, can you give me advice?
If you think you need a break than you're not ready for marriage. He may not be the right one for you and it's best if the two of you call it quits. If someday you come back to each other than great, but don't call it a break to decide what you want to do. You either break up or stay together, that's the only real solution.Taking a break, can you give me advice?
Back and forth relationships are never good what if u guys get married and 1 of u want space.
Nope.. If you don't run into each others arms and say I do without thinking about it..You don't love each other!!
I've never had to take ';a break'; from my relationships. It's either a done deal or not.





This is not a good sign. You're 28, your biological clock is ticking. Are you going to wait around for everyone to look for you?





Get on with your life. If you're willing to talk about marriage, I'm under the impression that you're ready - while this guy (much younger than you, it makes a huge difference in your 20s) doesn't see the urgency or necessity.





Kick him to the curb and find someone who's more mature about consistency than this guy.





You are NOT in love, you're in love with the idea about wanting to be in love. If you were in love - either of you, neither of you would agree to a ';break.'; It's a done deal when you're on again and off again, that neither of you is serious.






It could go both ways you could miss each other and get back together or just grow a part. Time will tell. Good Luck
I understand taking a small break to make sure that both of you are ready for such a big commitment. But a year seems a bit much to me. If you both really love each other and are really serious about marriage, I don't see the need for a year apart. If you have to go to that lengths to push yourselves to really ';stick with'; something...then maybe he just isn't the right man for you. I'm not doubting that you love each other, but that is simply not enough to make a marriage last. True love isn't something that should have to be forced. Marriage does take work, but not like this.





Good luck to the both of you.
I have been in that on again/off again relationship and to be honest, a break is not the answer. It only adds gas to the fire. If you can't manage to resolve your issues TOGETHER, what makes you think you are going to be able to resolve any issues as a married couple?





Seriously, breaks are for teenagers. Grow up and move on. End it. If in a year or two you happen to run into each other again and it HAPPENS to work out then, great. But don't wait around for him. You are 28. Go out there and find a MAN that is able to commit and stand by your side even when the going gets tough.
He is too young to commit, he wants to f*ck more women.


He wants to try them all - white, black, asians, old and young.


He will not be happy in the marriage until he tries it all, give him half a year
On again/off again?! That's a sign that it's time to find new lovers period. Take a break so you can find a new boyfriend. A 23 year old guy is not ready for marriage.
look at the name you are using, you must be off again? if you think a year is a ';break'; then you aren't ready to get married, at least to the on/off again guy.
Nah, it doesn't sound like marriage to this guy is in your best interest. If you two can't handle a relationship just as b/f and g/f without needing all these breaks what makes you think getting married will change any of that? Marriage is hard even when the people WANT to be together.
If you have to take a break now, what is preventing you from taking a break later. It does not sound like a good situation.
5 yrs? WOW! First of all, why do you want to take a break? If you don't feel it, then you won't feel it. In 5 yrs you will both find other people who will compliment you! Time waits on no one...
No! cuz a ';break'; in a relationship is to begining of the end in a relationship. When a couple goes on a break its basicaly both partners not wanting or dont have the ablity to say that this isnt working. Breaks mostly end in the termination of a relationship.



Don't get married! You totally don't sound ready. Wait a few years until you know what you want in life (him too).





I don't know if a separation would help. I definitely wouldn't want to be in that type of situation. Either I'm in a relationship or I''m not in a relationship. A separation wouldn't work for me. But to each his/her own i guess. What would probably happen though is that you'd both go in separate directions, meet different people, kiss different people, etc. It probably wouldnt' work. Sorry.